In general, life sucks! We can't control bad things happen to us, but we can control how we feel, how we interpret, and how we react to it.
Unfortunately, some people think if you don't react 'appropriately' sad in according to those unfortunate things that happened to you (which also involved someone close to you), you will be labelled as a cold or insensitive person.
If feeling sorry for what had happened could revert the situation, I won't mind being a sorry-ass all day long!
So, life suck? Sure, but you don't need to be! You better just laugh at it and enjoy it along the journey of your life, which is unique for all of us.